That responses is usually happens and mostly happens to us. However, the parry we made often made conflict and we feel hurt when Parrying the Attack.
I just want to emphasize to the Spiritual or Mental Aspect which follows the response we made.
Have you ever think to accept the attack first rather than to parry it out of your body?? so we can avoid the conflict?
Have you ever think not to run away by moving out to the uke's blind spot?? but to accept him/her coming with welcoming smile?? and try to be part of him/her??
We usually Resist the Attack, we don't won't to be attacked. so, we resist every attack that comes to us.
Why don't we try to see the attack not as an attack?? Try to see the attack as something that given by nature, by universe, try to accept this, then if you don't want to, you can give it back, or you can extend it to the other place.
Assumed that the attacker try to give us a power, accept it first then quickly we decide to give it back or to project it to another place which maybe need the power.
Just like in a Trade, the attacker as a giver and we as receiver, not to take, it will be different. just receive, accept.
So, when the attack comes to you, try to receive it first and said in your heart, thank you, then you can give it back to the attacker or projecting the power to another place, also by saying 'Thank You'. it will stimulate your ability of relax and extending ki.
You can try in Zagi Waza Kokyu Ho technique or Ryote Tori Tenci Nage
Try not to resist, try not to struggle against the attack. Establish the acceptance ability in yourself, Your Heart, Your Mind. and find out how Amazing it can be.
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